Many of us Black Gay Men have heard the saying "no fats, no fems," and sayings such as the like. I've heard people in my crew say " he was cute, until he sounded like a girl," or " He would be sexy if he wasn't such a queen."
Many people confuse femininity in a Black Gay man with the over the top, Flamboyant Gay man. A Feminine man who shares characteristics that society deem are more equated to a woman. However, a flamboyant man is "extra," over the top, loud, and often times draws unnecessary attention to themselves. Sometimes it's the excess that is unattractive.
However, with this blog, I want to explore the fact that feminine men are often seemed as undesirable or just plain filthy or disgusting. Well, I have news for all you "no fats, no fems," brothers out there: We are more man that you will ever be.
Many are asking "Musique, how can you say that." For starters we are more man than you will e…