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Can You Really Be Friends With Your Ex?

Can you really be friends with your ex? It work for some and it doesn't work for others. It may work depending on how the relationship ended. It may also depend on what may have transpired in the relationship.
Right now I'm seeking answers to that question.  Can I really be friends with my ex?  Given my dating history and the bullcrap that I've had to put up with, I can truly say that I can't be friends with my exes.
This blog post comes from an experience that I had a couple days ago with an ex.  Many of you are familiar with my ex "Hamp."  Well Hamp and I had reconnected last year and we tried dating a 3rd time, but that quickly crashed and burned. We did however decide to remain friends.  Things were good until a couple months of ago in our friend  situationship.  We ended up becoming friends with benefits.   Well in May Hamp got scarce and just seemed distant. We had just had a conversation about "going ghost on each other."  I didn't unders…


Here's a FlashBack Before the name change and transition.

Dreaming About The Ex

If you read this blog, then you know that I am currently in a relationship.  You would also know that the relationship prior to this one was not a healthy.  That ex whom we'll call Lucious was a user, liar, cheater, and your all around stunt queen!!!   Well on Friday night, I came home from work and I took a nap.  Guess who I dreamed about....The Stunt Queen Lucious. I dreamed that he and I were still dating.  I dreamed that Lucious and I were to meet my grandmother for dinner however, he had me to take him to a trap house to see someone that we all knew he hated.  However, he had me to call the police to alert them of drug activity.  I unwillingly called, and thought nothing of it.  Apparently, this was one of his stunts to get back at someone and redeem himself. Instead, in the dream, the police traced the call back to my phone and arrested me at my grandmother's house and I began explaining what happened.   The police then explained that they had been looking for my ex fo…

Is It Ever Okay to Date Your Friend's Ex?

For the Question of the Day...Is it Ever cool to date you friend's ex? Do you see a problem with it? Yes or no?
  I saw a post on Facebook and it got my Piscean gears to turning. Could I or would I date my best friends ex?  I came to the conclusion of saying within myself "HELL NO!!!!"
  The reason my reply is "Hell No," is because I feel that certain boundaries would be crossed and jealousy could arise.  Let's say the relationship was a bad relationship because your friend or the ex made some crappy choices. You and the ex start dating and the best friend tries to warn you of what the ex is capable of. Nine times out of ten you'd think the friend is jealous or wants the ex back when it could be they are looking out for your well being.
  Next scenario, what if the break-up was mutual or they may still be cut buddies (Friends with benefits), that could add some drama between you and the friend especially if there are certain attachments there. Me per…