One thing that I cannot stand seeing with Bisexual or Downlow men is the fact that they often marry women in order to hide or cover up the fact that they are homosexual or same gender loving. There are also cases where obviously gay men have married women, through force or their own stupidity, believing that it will make them straight. This is often taught by fundamentalist Christians and other religions that in order to not be damned to hell for loving the same gender you must marry the opposite sex and that you're cured.
NEWS FLASH: IT DOESN'T!!!! You're still a Gay or Bisexual person that ended up marrying someone to make it look like your heterosexual, but you are still attracted to the same sex!!!
Why am I writing this you may ask? Well Over the course of the week I've seen men who have just this very week tried to bed me or want to have an escapade with me announce over Facebook that they are engaged to a woman. Now, don't get me wrong I'm not upset because they are engaged and that I'm single, but I'm repulsed at the fact that they are living a lie and bringing an innocent soul into their lie. It sickens me to see anyone use the guise of marriage to cover up their actions. Marriage is sacred and the way that you desecrate marriage is that you use it to make yourself "fit in" with the status quo.
Just last night, I was watching a video of an obviously gay man who is married to a woman. The woman looked unhappy, but the man acted like there was nothing wrong. Apparently the wife is not happy because the husband had been caught in a scandal. She wouldn't even look at the camera during the video. The wife remained quiet, but it is obvious that the husband was attempting to cover up the fact that he is infact same gender loving. In relationships like that, there will be infidelity because the man is not attracted to the woman whatsoever. They are both living a lie. The wife is pretending to be happy while the husband is literally gay and happy living a lie.
If you are gay, why get married? Why are you worried about people's opinion? It is 2014 be proud of who you are. Stop hiding. You are not in one of those countries that will kill you under law for being who you are. There is NOTHING wrong with being Gay or Bi. Don't get fooled into thinking that marrying one of the opposite sex will make you straight. It doesn't. I've been there done that.
I've allowed church people to force me to date women, when I knew that I wasn't desiring a woman. That caused depression not only with me but also hurt the young lady that I was dating. How so? Because everything was built on a lie. That's what happens when a knowingly Gay man attempts to go straight through marriage. There is no love.
NEWS FLASH: MARRIAGE DOES NOT MAKE YOU STRAIGHT!!!!
Many of you are familiar with the Salem Witch Hunts that took place in the earlier part of History in which people in the Puritan Colonies would be called a witch and be put through water boarding tests and tortured which would force them into confessing.
In today's society the witch hunt is in the Black Church and it is thrown at the Gays, Bisexuals, Down Low Men, and especially Transgender. It is nothing new to hear a pastor in the pulpit say "I'd rather have a son that's a murderer than a sissy," or my personal favorite "God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve." These are all things that I've grown up hearing all the time. When I was younger I didn't understand it, but now that I'm older and I am who I am, I've learned a lot more about myself and life in general.
As I've grown and have left and have come back to the church, I've learned that in most traditional churches, there is a witch hunt much like that of the Salem Witch Hunts. Only it isn't with witchcraft, it is with homosexuality. It seems as if the church has forgotten about all the other sins such as fornication, adultery, lust, envy, hatred, lying, stealing, covetous behaviors, just to name several. However, homosexuality is the biggest of these.
I find fault with this because the Bible clearly says that no sin is greater than the other. It's all an abomination to God. So why, pray tell, that people always wants to call out the Gays and Lesbians? Didn't God create them and doesn't he love them as much as the thief, the liar, the adulterer, the whore, the deceiver? Through all of the religious doctrine and ex gay therapy, and I can say this from experience, there is often times where LGBT Christians are taught to hate themselves because of something that they couldn't control. As a result we have suicides and people getting married and forced into relationships in order to be accepted by so called "Christian People."
This is not Christ like at all. The Bible teaches that we are to help and approach people out of love and not out of hate. Why go up to a person and tell them that they are going hell, when they really just need to be told that God loves you as you are?
It's nothing worse than coming into a church and being called a "faggot"or a "sissy" because you aren't super masculine or because you wear an earring in each ear. Not only that being called gay because you did the latest fashion trend, but the other guys in the church can do it AFTER you've done it.
It seems today that a lot of, and I hate to say it, Self hating, Gay, Down Low Pastors and Prophets are looking to "expose" people for being gay if they listen to Lady Gaga, Beyonce, wear skinny jeans, or is the least bit androgynous for their gender. Really? I didn't know fashion or taste in music determined your sexuality. It even goes down to if you say certain words or if you even hang out with someone who is LGBT? So the church has reduced itself to a judging house? Last time I checked the Bible says not to judge lest we'll be judge in the same manner in which judged. Yes I said it!!! I don't understand how the church became such a place where people can't come as they are without church folks looking at them side eyed and whispering or the Pastor throwing stones. Not to mention all of the "Pastor Said this and that." Honey you better study for yourself and stop listening to the Pastor like he's God himself. The Pastor is a mere man who can wrongly divide the word of God.
I guess that's all I have to say...for right now.
Warning this is me venting don't take it all for fact unless it is historically noted.
I'm writing this blog out of disgust and pisstivity. Yes, Pisstivity. The Supreme Court has really set themselves back into the 50's with the recent Hobby Lobby Contraceptive ruling. So apparently religion in this country trumps human rights. This is shown in the Fight for LGBT Rights, Abortion, and even in racial matters.
Now although the Separation of Church and State is not in the Constitution or the Declaration of Independence, it is a concept spoken and coined by Thomas Jefferson Danbury Baptist Association in 1802. He clearly states: "Believing with you that religion is a matter which lies solely between Man & his God, that he owes account to none other for his faith or his worship, that the legitimate powers of government reach actions only, & not opinions, I contemplate with sovereign reverence that act of the whole American people which declared that their legislature should 'make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof,' thus building a wall of separation between Church and State."
What's so freaking funny about this bullshit is that people will pick and choose what part of they Bible they can manipulate whenever its convenient for them. Let's not forget we have some thieves and politicians showing hatred, which goes against the Bible. Not to mention they over indulge, commit adultery, but I'm denied the right to marry the man I love and others denied the right to conception in the name of religion.
When it comes to the Separation of Church and State Sam Lloyd of South Carolina states "There never has been. It's all rhetoric.." Isn't that most of what these damn politicians speeches are is rhetoric and eloquent, yet meaningless words? Mr. Lloyd goes further to say "The state was largely created for religious freedom, so how could there possibly have ever been a separation?"
And Sam Lloyd is right. Since this country was founded for "religious freedoms" how could it be a separation of church and state? Apparently and unfortunately it rules the world. Just because you interpret God one way doesn't mean I interpret him the same way. We believe in different things. Apparently, in Modern America Freedom is neglected when it comes to the main religion, Christianity. Granted I am a Christian, but I don't think that Christ would be pleased at how Judaism and Christianity is twisted to down other people, to enslave other people, cause harm to others, and justify things that are unjust. Aren't we supposed to deal justly with all men and show love?
All I see right now is a lot of hate and bigotry. I need a freaking answer.
Daniel Karslake has caused controversy with his documentary "For the Bible Tells Me So." Why is it so controversial? Well It deals with the conflict between Christianity and Homosexuality. The documentary includes interviews from religious parents, LGBT Members, Theologians, as well as personalities and clergymen, Bishop V. Gene Robinson. Narration is done by the late Don La Fontaine. This film will challenge your theology and causes you to think about the real meaning of some words in one of the most cherished books of the world. Get into "For the Bible Tells Me So," below.
For those of the Christian Faith this is the time we celebrate Christ's resurrection. Not only celebrate His dying, but celebrate His resurrection and the fact that since He lives, you live as well. Your purpose is not dead!!! Your dreams are not dead!!!
Spring time is a time when new life begins and Right now we are all walking, talking, and breathing in new life.
Happy Resurrection Day!!!
Many of you know that I'm a singer, songwriter, musician, and producer. I may have lightly hinted at the story of how I became a music head. Well, below is a video explaining my love and passion for music as seen on the Bradley Show. Also Click on the Link above to donate to Destination DMV.
The 56th Annual Grammy Awards made history. With over 30 weddings including Same-Sex couples, a statement was made: "Love is Love." I didn't watch the whole entire award show, however I did catch the musical tributes and Taylor Swifts reaction to not winning.
What made me watch was the mass wedding ceremony that took place during Macklemore's "Same Love," performance that also featured Madonna, Ryan Lewis with Queen Latifah as the officiant. While many anti-Gay bigots are stating that this would cause others to be Gay, I say that this is a statement that no matter who you love, you deserve to be able to marry whomever you love (just as long as its another human being and you all are consenting adults).
My mind goes back to a time in this world in which interracial dating was illegal and now it is legal. Why not make marriage legal for all?
Do not get me started on the Oklahoma lawmaker that wants to ban marriage for all people
just so that LGBT couples cannot get married. How dumb and ignorant. I guess that's
what religion does to some people. I causes them to be a jackass.
You all know that I am a fan of The Clark Sisters. One of my favorite songs by them is "Nothing to Lose (Jesus Unhooked the Chains)." This song really encourages to keep pushing because God gave me nothing to lose but all to gain. Here is my recent cover on youtube. Love ya,
Musique aka Bradley
Unfortunately, with religious people being gay is tough. There is so many misconceptions, stigmas, and ignorant comments made about homosexuality and hate for the LGBT Community. With the Black Church especially, there is a hatred and a conception that the Gays are on a mission to convert others and to destroy families. It would seem that a place that was meant to show love and have a heart for all people, just like Jesus, the church tends to think less of the gays and more of the pimps in the pulpit and those he abuse the Gospel for a quick buck.
There have been times as a musician that I've been apart of ministries that have found out that I was gay and there response was "we can help you get delivered," or "well we can't trust you if you're gay." Those comments not only hurt, but they pissed me off. Why should whom I choose to love and something that God placed me in conflict with my love for music and me serving God? It doesn't.
A few years ago, as a member of Hold My Mule Holiness, a so called "Prophetess," embarrassed me after she found out that I was dating someone of the same gender. We were in church and no sooner than I went up for prayer for a relative she begins to prophelie that God is going to destroy me and snatch my gift away because I am a homosexual. She lied like God had told her all the private things my then lover and I had did behind closed doors. I was totally angered, upset, and ready to punch her in the face, but at that time, I didn't want to cause a scene so like a puppet I played the role, but I basically ignored her, knowing that would be my last Sunday at that hell hole. I was just plain tired.
After church services Pastor HolierthanThou, called me into her office to have a meeting with me, which I felt was in appropriate. I was suppose to start using the facilities of Hold My Mule Holiness to teach music lessons. During the meeting, I just felt as if I didn't want to be bothered.
Holierthanthou started the meeting by asking "how are you?"
"I'm great," I stated as if the fake prophesy had not come forth.
This heifer dove right in. "I understand that you had some personal things happen between you and an individual recently. As a result of your actions, I can't allow you to use our facilities to conduct your music lessons because I can't trust you."
I didn't lose my composure, nor did I react . I just simply said "Okay."
She proceeded to say "I thought you were doing so well by trying to stay delivered, but I can't trust you. I don't know what kind of things you will do in this church."
Holierthanthou made it seem like I would run some type of gay rally at her church or something. What added insult to injury was that she had another minister in the meeting as well. I felt as if I was being crucified, but I would not react or give them the satisfaction that they had hurt me and offended me. I'm too good for that.
I was deeply offended. Those comments made me feel that since I am Gay that I'm some sort of deviant trying to prevert everything Good in the kingdom. My rebuttal and live saving decision came within seconds.
"Well, This is also my last day here at Hold My Mule Holiness."
"Why is that,"Pastor Holierthanthou asked.
"I feel its time for me to move on and its a new season."
All she could say was "I can't make you stay."
"This is the Devil," the Minister that was in the meeting stated.
In my mind I said "Girl, you are the devil."
The Minister stated "This is not God. This is the Devil. Don't let him make you leave."
I had made my decision. "I think its best."
Holierthanthou Offered to still be there for me, but what was the use, she said she can't trust me.
After that meeting ended, I gathered my musical equipment, my Bible and other items and left my Egypt behind.
The whole thing I gathered after I left that church was that because I'm gay, they couldn't trust me and because of religious ignorance and stupidity, I was thought to be a danger. Often times, its okay for the Gay people to sing on the choir, direct the choir, serve as an usher, but we can't testify nor can we participate on any other boards in the church. It's often a trust factor.
Church people feel like the gays are on some kind of conquest to "convert" straight people, in which we are not. Our conquest is to be loved and treated like human beings just as Christ has commanded all human beings to be treated. I didn't know that who I choose to love deemed me untrustworthy. That has nothing to do with me being trustworthy.
Its time that the church, especially the Black Church, get real that there are gay people, Open and in the closet in attendance. There are plenty of downlow preachers and new people coming out as LGBT and proud everyday. We need to be recognized and not swept under the rug. With recent scandals with several Gospel singers something needs to be done. It's time out for the church acting like homosexuality doesn't exist. It does and its not an act or lifestyle that will send you to Hell, contrary to popular belief. We are human and there is nothing wrong with us.
Gays are trust worthy. We are more trustworthy than the Eddie Longs and Deitrick Haddons of society and more honest than the Donnie McClurkins in the church. It's time that the Gays be seen as Good and trustworthy not a tortured soul that can't be trusted. I'm tired of hearing stories of gays being told "Because You are Gay I Can't Trust You." You're trusting Reverend Down Low that I just slept with and he's taking all your money and spending time with me instead of his wife. POW did that hurt...I meant for it to.
It is Christmas EVE 2013!!! Wow this year has gone by fast!
I remember as a kid my mom reading to us "The Night Before Christmas," and us reciting Christmas poems at church commemorating the birth of Christ. Oh What Memories.
One of my favorite memories is when my aunt and uncle that raised me, brought me a trampoline for Christmas. It is one of my fondest memories because it was my last Christmas with that uncle before he went on to be with the ancestors. I was 9 years old that year.
During the course of the next day or so, my uncle and cousin assembled the trampoline and we all ended up jumping on the trampoline. I am thankful for life and that I've made it to see Christmas Eve 2013. I can't wait till Christmas to see my family and eat some good food made by Grandma Musique.
When it comes to me being a Christian and being Gay, I choose to be more spiritual than religious. Religious means that one chooses to go through the motions of whatever their belief without any real attachment while spiritual means you are one with whatever God you choose to serve. Be it Allah, Yahweh, Buddha, or whomever, you are one with Him.
As I've sat around family for a few days, I've learned and seen why I left the church for a while. So many people love to throw around Scriptures and religious texts, but they do the exact same things that those religious texts tell mankind NOT to do ie judging, hating, stealing, lying, adultery, etc. It's funny that even our government use the Holy Bible as tools to make judgments on who is allowed to marry, who shall pay higher taxes, and who can adopt children let alone vote.
Personally I choose a more spiritual approach without having to justify my ignorance (which I am not) with words that I do not know how to use correctly. So many people are religious and use religion as an escape route to justify their actions and to justify why they are they way they are or why the way the world is. Granted, some things in some religious doctrines are important to pay attention to, while you can simply ignore those who always throw around religion, but they can't even show love to their fellow man or even help those less fortunate than them.
Just this week, I cleared my social media of religious bigots that love quoting scripture, but as soon as they find out that someone is Gay, Lesbian, Transgender, or may have made a mistake, then they disregard them as scum of the earth. I'd rather have a spiritual connection and be unique and meet my maker than be religious and die and end up in eternal damnation. I have no qualms with other religious although I am #TEAMJESUS.
Its taken a while, but as I sit back and observe, I see why some people do not fool with religion.
Xavier Eskridge of All The Way Driven TV, is a truth teller and one that will give you revelation. With the recent exposing of an up and coming Gospel singer with a sex tape, Xavier goes in about the church and sex. He even goes in about the isms and schisms of the Black Church. Check the video "Sex & Church" below.
One thing that I've learned in life is that we all make mistakes. This is a lesson learned by many. However, It's shameful that people always hold our mistakes against us when we've learned from the mistake. On a recent installment of my Youtube Show The Bradley Show I discuss humans and their easiness to make mistakes. Check it out Y'all,
Remember an earlier post about Davion Navar Henry? I have good news. Thanks to my girl, Lady Pixley, I have an update. Davion, after making an appearance on ABC's "The View," will be getting a family after all.
Recently Davion went to a local church in St. Petersburg , Florida pleading that someone would adopt him. In the television appearance, Davion thanked those foster homes that took care of him as well as apologized for "being a butthead" to some of them when he was younger. For information concerning Davion Only, go online to www.eckerd.org or call 1-866-233-0790. Please also don't forget about others who are in need of families.