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So Freaking Embarrassed

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What are some of your most embarrassing moments? Lord, forbide if it was on a date or just simply dealing with bullcrap while on a date. Check out Black, Trans, & Beautiful, as we discuss being "Embarrassed by The 'D.'"



When He Asks for Your Snapchat

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#ASKINGFORAFRIEND
What is your response when someone hits you up on social media feigning an interest in dating, but then asks for your snapchat, kik or other social media?
What the hell?
Read More Here: blacktransbeautiful.wordpress.com/2018/05/07/can-i-have-your-snapchat/

The Priestess Got Stood Up

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So Ya Girl Got Stood THE F@$% UP!!! It really happened!!! The potential suitor was fine as wine, but apparently a simple Fuck Boy.

Picture It, South Carolina 2018. A fine Man of Color messages me on a dating app and a this bougie Black Transwoman replies and engages.  He introduced himself as Don. Now Don is 23 or so he says. Don paraded all of his accomplishments and the fact that he's openly pansexual, however that Piscean intuition told me this was not something I should've dealt with.

  Don was so smitten by my beauty that he wanted to meet me and get to know me. We did have a phone conversation other than texting and we planned our date.  Your girl was very excited about this "date" even though I was feeling like a damn cougar.
  Well Don and I talked again as I prepared to leave my house to meet him. I did text him and called him as I was approaching the designated spot we were to meet, but I didn't get an answer or reply.  The fucked up part was that 20 m…

Surviving Valentine's Day as a Single Woman

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Well Valentine's Day is Upon Us! While many of us are in a thriving relationship, some of us are single or in the Friend Zone. Well on Black, Trans & Beautiful I discuss surviving Valentine's Day while single. Check out the video below for tips on Surviving Valentine's Day and Some Gift Ideas for Those you love,   Yannick

New Episodes Coming to the Black, Trans, & Beautiful Podcast August 28th 2017

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The Topic will be HIV/AIDS Education, Awareness, Prevention, and Dating 
Join the Discussion on August 28th, 2017 at 8pm Eastern Time.
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I Bruised His Ego

Dating is so complex. I just don't understand why.  It is even more complicated when you're transgender.  As a transgender woman, I've had married men, closeted, down low men, and plain out horny men wanting to get with me just because I'm transgender and not for my intellect or to get to know me. In my experience in dating pre-transition and during the transition, I've gathered that some individuals just don't know what the heck they want.

Sexualized, Black, and Transgender

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So It's been it's been six months since I became a single lady. I'm not complaining, however I've decided to give dating a try.  Nothing wrong with a girl trying is it?
  One of the many woes that I have when it comes to entering back into the dating game is the fact that I encounter guys that only see transwomen as a fetish!!!  I am quick to remind them that I am a human being and not just a sex object.  Is this because of how men already view women in itself and could it be that society have made being transgender a sexual fantasy?
  Most of the messages that I get in my inbox are from men who are married and looking to fulfill some sort of sexual desire or some horny guy that thicks his penis or open butthole is a great introduction or first impression.  With these actions I am quickly repulsed and agitated.
  I am quickly thinking that I've made a mistake in trying to date right now.  Yes, I'm waiting for my knight in shining armor, but damn can a woman, …

I'm Transgender, Not Desperate

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How To Get Away With A Bachelor 7/6C April 25

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11TH ANNUAL CHARITY BACHELOR AUCTIONAPR25, 2015·MCGLOHON THEATER AT SPIRIT SQUARE $35 PRESENTED BY: DELTAS OF CHARLOTTE FOUNDATION The Deltas of Charlotte Foundation (DOCF) is a non-profit 501(c)3 organization that partners with Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Charlotte Alumnae Chapter. The mission of DOCF is to strengthen the community by implementing and supporting programs that improve the quality of life for women and their families in the greater Charlotte region.  The proceeds from the Bachelor Auction provide financial resources for DOCF to continue its community-based programming. Some of the initiatives that benefit from our efforts include but are not limited to Bright Hopes, Inc., UNCF – The College Fund, Family Matters and Carolina CARE Partnership.  A portion of the proceeds raised during this event benefit the aforementioned charities: For more information, see www.deltasofcharlotte.org. Reception starts at 6:00PM. - See more at: http://www.blumenthalarts.org/events-perfo…

How To Get Away With A Bachelor!!!! Premieres April 25 at Spirit Square 7/6C

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11TH ANNUAL CHARITY BACHELOR AUCTIONAPR25, 2015·MCGLOHON THEATER AT SPIRIT SQUARE $35 PRESENTED BY: DELTAS OF CHARLOTTE FOUNDATION The Deltas of Charlotte Foundation (DOCF) is a non-profit 501(c)3 organization that partners with Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Charlotte Alumnae Chapter. The mission of DOCF is to strengthen the community by implementing and supporting programs that improve the quality of life for women and their families in the greater Charlotte region.  The proceeds from the Bachelor Auction provide financial resources for DOCF to continue its community-based programming. Some of the initiatives that benefit from our efforts include but are not limited to Bright Hopes, Inc., UNCF – The College Fund, Family Matters and Carolina CARE Partnership.  A portion of the proceeds raised during this event benefit the aforementioned charities: For more information, see www.deltasofcharlotte.org. Reception starts at 6:00PM. - See more at: http://www.blumenthalarts.org/events-perfo…

Getting Back To Me

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It has been a very long time since I've sat my happy booty down and wrote in this blog.  One reason is that I had been sick with a stomach virus. Then as I recuperated I broke my laptop charger and I just got a new one a couple days ago. Then I had to make a trip to the DMV for an even that later got cancelled due to a snow storm.     I can't complain, though. I needed this break. I needed some time away to regroup and to refresh myself.  We have to do that so that we won't lose ourselves in the hustle and bustle of life.  I am also thankful for my current lover.    Mr. Lover Boy has encouraged me to just enjoy life and have fun more often without stressing over things that are out of my control.  Look for it. Some exciting and new things are about to happen for this blog.  love ya, Yannick


@TheDaveWavey If Gay Guys Were Honest On Dates

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  What Would it be like if Gay Guys Were Honest On Dates?Fitness Guru and Youtube Sensation Davey Wavey along with Kingsley also of Youtube, Depict what Honesty will reveal. Get into this comic depiction Below. Love ya, Yannick

Stop Searching, It Will Come

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It's been almost a month since my break up with my last lover.  Things seemed to be going well for the 2 months that we were together, however entering
 into the third phase or third month I noticed that his communication would get slack, unless he needed money or needed some type of assistance.  My ex, whom we'll call "Anton," turned out to be a sweet dream and beautiful nightmare.  Anton seemed like the perfect one for me, but then there were too many red flags and I began catching him in several lies. He would complain about me doing church work and accuse me of not making time for him, when I would sacrifice time with friends and family for him.  However, Anton could not sacrifice for me. So , I had to let him go.   I know my worth and I know what I deserve, and I deserve better than a quickie and more than a relationship out of convenience for what I can do.  I need someone that can value me as whole and will treat me like the King that I am.  I didn't rea…

Would You Date Someone Who Is HIV +?

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Get Tested, Know Your Status, Get Treatment, and Stay in Treatment. Question of the Day: Would You Date a Person Living with HIV? Why or Why Not?

Falling in Love Scares Me

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So many of you know that I've come back into the dating world.  I had one prospect, but that turned out to be something that is necessary at this time. However, I may have found someone. For the sake of protecting identity we'll call him "Don." Don and I met a couple weeks ago and we hit it off instantly. We've been on a few dates and we text and call each other when we're off from work or doing absolutely nothing at all. Even with my trip to Alabama to see my Mom, Brother, Sister, Nephews, and other relatives, he text and called the whole time I was there and let me know that he was "sad" because I was gone for the 4th of July Holiday.
  After I came back in town, Don and I went out Sunday after I got done with my religious duties and he and I talked and cuddled. I enjoyed it, but for some reason, I am apprehensive.  I can't figure out why for the life of me. I feel like I'm afraid to trust him. I can tell he cares and he's not sho…

@MontreBible HOW to CATCH a BOYFRIEND

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Many of you all have been wondering how to catch a boyfriend? Well Montre of Montre Bible and Youtube, gives us some tips on how to meet a boyfriend. Guys listen up!!! Montre has some great some tips for you all. Get into his video below.


I'm Sorry I Can't Date You

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Call me shallow, gold digger, prideful or whatever, you want to concerning this blog post, but I must vent my feelings and how I feel.
  Now I'm single and not bitter at the least.  Some may say that I'm single by choice and others may say otherwise. One reason that I'm single could possibly be my standards.
  One thing that you all know about me is that I've been out and proud since 2010. I'm independent meaning I work, pay my bills, strive for the best, and at least can manage to keep a car, my cell phone on, and very wise with my spending.  Now some may say I'm a bitch for admitting this oh well, #BYEFELICIA!!!
  Here recently, I've had , in their mind, potential suitors trying to woo me, but there's been one problem: They have no car, no money, and no priorities. They don't even have a phone to call someone to orchestrate a date. Now I'm not a gold a digger, but can you please at least have the basic necessities to get you through life?…

Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

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So Many of you know that I've recently thrown myself back into the dating game. There have been some suitor's but there is one that I'm sticking with. We'll call him Leland. Leland and I met last year via Facebook.  We met in one of the groups that I participate in Facebook.  He and I are both into the church, both are unique, we both love musicals, and we have so many opposite qualities that seem to push us together.
  Leland is a great guy. I can tell it in the way we talk on the phone, Skype, text, Facebook. However there is one drawback. He's in New York and I'm in South Carolina....Now before you all start judging me and hounding me about Destination DMV. Many people have stated "Musique, Find you someone in DC."
Yes, that seems logical, but I'm curious to see how this will work with me and Leland.  We've spent so much time getting to know each other and we have an understanding. Even when it seemed like I may have found someone here …

When It's My Time it Will Be

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Alot of people have been asking me, "Why aren't you dating." I know that I've written about this many times before. I've even listed my reasons for being single.  I've recently gotten back into the dating game. Yes I'm finally making time to stop and smell the flowers!!!! However, I am not in a rush to find that special someone.   It is funny though I saw a picture on Tumblr, that read "if you are a single, Gay, Black Man over 30, then you should stop trying." I so disagree with that saying. That sounded it like it came from either a jaded sugar-baby that has been scorned trying to play older men or some jackass who is over 30 and married or in a relationship.
  Now honey, sugar, sugar boo-boo, I'm 28 and single. I've had my share of relationships, flings, and cut buddies, but I'm at the stage of my life where I am preparing to accomplish some major dreams and it would be nice to have someone to share that with. Even if I don't…

Do I Have Time to Date?

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As a single, Black, Gay Man, I've often asked myself "Musique, Why are you single?"   My response to myself and to my friends is constantly " I don't have time to date."  Then afterwards, I think to myself "Do I have time to date or is it an excuse." 
 I do work a 9-5, very active in ministry, run this blog and The Bradley Show as well as work on my music career.  Sometimes, I do try to take days for myself where I'm able to rest and relax and not be bothered, but could everything outside of work and church be a distraction for me?
  Another reason why I feel that I don't have time to date is the fact that I will soon be relocating and I don't really want to start dating and then have to deal with the separation issues that come with moving and I refuse to do a long distance relationship.
  Don't get me wrong, I am tired of being single at the age of 28 and I feel that after a year and some change of being single, I need someth…