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Friday, July 18, 2014

The Black Church: Witch Hunts on the Gays

   Many of you are familiar with the Salem Witch Hunts that took place in the earlier part of History in which people in the Puritan Colonies would be called a witch and be put through water boarding tests and tortured which would force them into confessing.
  In today's society the witch hunt is in the Black Church and it is thrown at the Gays, Bisexuals, Down Low Men, and especially Transgender.  It is nothing new to hear a pastor in the pulpit say "I'd rather have a son that's a murderer than a sissy,"  or my personal favorite "God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve."  These are all things that I've grown up hearing all the time. When I was younger I didn't understand it, but now that I'm older and I am who I am, I've learned a lot more about myself and life in general.
  As I've grown and have left and have come back to the church, I've learned that in most traditional churches, there is a witch hunt much like that of the Salem Witch Hunts. Only it isn't with witchcraft, it is with homosexuality.  It seems as if the church has forgotten about all the other sins such as fornication, adultery, lust, envy, hatred, lying, stealing, covetous behaviors, just to name several.  However, homosexuality is the biggest of these.
  I find fault with this because the Bible clearly says that no sin is greater than the other.  It's all an abomination to God.  So why, pray tell, that people always wants to call out the Gays and Lesbians?  Didn't God create them and doesn't he love them as much as the thief, the liar, the adulterer, the whore, the deceiver? Through all of the religious doctrine and ex gay therapy, and I can say this from experience, there is often times where LGBT Christians are taught to hate themselves because of something that they couldn't control. As a result we have suicides and people getting married and forced into relationships in order to be accepted by so called "Christian People."
  This is not Christ like at all. The Bible teaches that we are to help and approach people out of love and not out of hate.  Why go up to a person and tell them that they are going hell, when they really just need to be told that God loves you as you are?
 It's nothing worse than coming into a church and being called a "faggot"or a "sissy" because you aren't super masculine or because you wear an earring in each ear. Not only that being called gay because you did the latest fashion trend, but the other guys in the church can do it AFTER you've done it.
  It seems today that a lot of, and I hate to say it, Self hating, Gay, Down Low Pastors and Prophets are looking to "expose" people for being gay if they listen to Lady Gaga, Beyonce, wear skinny jeans, or is the least bit androgynous for their gender.  Really? I didn't know fashion or taste in music determined your sexuality.  It even goes down to if you say certain words or if you even hang out with someone who is LGBT?  So the church has reduced itself to a judging house?  Last time I checked the Bible says not to judge lest we'll be judge in the same manner in which judged.  Yes I said it!!! I don't understand how the church became such a place where people can't come as they are without church folks looking at them side eyed and whispering or the Pastor throwing stones. Not to mention all of the "Pastor Said this and that." Honey you better study for yourself and stop listening to the Pastor like he's God himself. The Pastor is a mere man who can wrongly divide the word of God.
I guess that's all I have to say...for right now.

Friday, July 11, 2014

Sometimes I.....

  Sometimes I don't feel like getting out of bed. Sometimes I don't feel like getting dressed. Sometimes I don't feel like doing anything. Sometimes I don't feel like moving.  Sometimes, I just want to run away.
  In these moments, I encourage myself to run on and see what the end is going to be. 
 Sometimes I want to give up, but I realize it is not in my make up. Sometimes, I want to say "to hell with it all," but then my dreams will stall.
  Sometimes, I wonder what tomorrow will hold if I hadn't made a past mistake or if I would have jumped in a lake. Sometimes, I cry and sometimes I sigh.
  But through it all I make it through those times where I question my existence.  Around my soul and heart I've build a fence only to find it didn't make sense, to block the blessings that God wants to send.  I'm sorry if this offends, but sometimes this is just how I feel.
  Right now as my heart beats still, I know that this too shall pass. This man of sass and talent refuses to quit.
  I may have few words and may often times just ramble on, Sometimes I just gotta feel what I feel and move on with my life. I will not live in strife.
Sometimes I....

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Falling in Love Scares Me

   So many of you know that I've come back into the dating world.  I had one prospect, but that turned out to be something that is necessary at this time. However, I may have found someone. For the sake of protecting identity we'll call him "Don." Don and I met a couple weeks ago and we hit it off instantly. We've been on a few dates and we text and call each other when we're off from work or doing absolutely nothing at all. Even with my trip to Alabama to see my Mom, Brother, Sister, Nephews, and other relatives, he text and called the whole time I was there and let me know that he was "sad" because I was gone for the 4th of July Holiday.
  After I came back in town, Don and I went out Sunday after I got done with my religious duties and he and I talked and cuddled. I enjoyed it, but for some reason, I am apprehensive.  I can't figure out why for the life of me. I feel like I'm afraid to trust him. I can tell he cares and he's not shown me a reason not to trust him.
  Could it be that I've been hurt and played so many times that I'm just a bitter person? Could it be that my intuition is right? Could it be that I'm over analyzing the situation?
  I'm just going to be honest, falling in love scares me. The thought of giving that intimate part of me ie my soul, heart, and inner most me, scares me. I've been toyed with so many times, that I'm not willing to go through that any more.
  I'm 28 years old and have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a year without that person cheating, leaving me because of me not being "masculine enough," or the fact that I'm going forth for my dreams.  I admit I am apprehensive about approaching my 30's and being alone.
  What is a guy like me to do? I'll guess I'll have to take a chance and learn any lessons this experience my throw my way.

Thursday, July 3, 2014

A Separation of Church and State

Warning this is me venting don't take it all for fact unless it is historically noted.
  I'm writing this blog out of disgust and pisstivity.  Yes, Pisstivity.  The Supreme Court has really set themselves back into the 50's with the recent Hobby Lobby Contraceptive ruling.   So apparently religion in this country trumps human rights. This is shown in the Fight for LGBT Rights, Abortion, and even in racial matters.
  Now although the Separation of Church and State is not in the Constitution or the Declaration of Independence, it is a concept spoken and coined by Thomas Jefferson Danbury Baptist Association in 1802. He clearly states:
 "Believing with you that religion is a matter which lies solely between Man & his God, that he owes account to none other for his faith or his worship, that the legitimate powers of government reach actions only, & not opinions, I contemplate with sovereign reverence that act of the whole American people which declared that their legislature should 'make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof,' thus building a wall of separation between Church and State."

  What's so freaking funny about this bullshit is that people will pick and choose what part of they Bible they can manipulate whenever its convenient for them. Let's not forget we have some thieves and politicians showing hatred, which goes against the Bible. Not to mention they over indulge, commit adultery, but I'm denied the right to marry the man I love and others denied the right to conception in the name of religion.
  When it comes to the Separation of Church and State Sam Lloyd of South Carolina states "There never has been. It's all rhetoric.." Isn't that most of what these damn politicians speeches are is rhetoric and eloquent, yet meaningless words?  Mr. Lloyd goes further to say "The state was largely created for religious freedom, so how could there possibly have ever been a separation?"
   And Sam Lloyd is right.  Since this country was founded for "religious freedoms" how could it be a separation of church and state? Apparently and unfortunately it rules the world.  Just because you interpret God one way doesn't mean I interpret him the same way. We believe in different things. Apparently, in Modern America Freedom is neglected when it comes to the main religion, Christianity. Granted I am a Christian, but I don't think that Christ would be pleased at how Judaism and Christianity is twisted to down other people, to enslave other people, cause harm to others, and justify things that are unjust. Aren't we supposed to deal justly with all men and show love?
   All I see right now is a lot of hate and bigotry. I need a freaking answer.

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Change is Necessary

      One thing that I've learned in life that is constant is change.  Change means that everything shifts, becomes new, or holds a new position.  Change may not always be how we want it, but it is necessary.
  Change may not feel comfortable, but it is necessary. Change may mean we loose some friends and loose some possessions, but it is necessary.
Change is necessary.

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Have a Great Sunday

  I pray that you all have had a great Sunday. Things have been hectic because of the demands of ministry and life. I will be coming back with some riveting posts.
Love ya,

Friday, May 30, 2014

I am Dirty

  Hi, I'm Musique and I'm HIV positive. I always thought it would never happen to be, but I got that vision shattered in 2012.  Although I am HIV Positive, I am a happy, HEALTHY, ambitious person. I'm a musician, blogger, actor, youtube Personality.
  However to some I am "Dirty."  I'm sure that many of you all have seen online dating profiles that says this "no positive dudes. Must be Clean. NO dirty booties. No tainted meat." The list could go on. Those are codes for telling people with HIV that they are not welcomed and that they are "unclean" in the eyes of the HIV Negative LGBT members. These terms are offensive and hurtful, but I refuse to let someone else's ignorance cause me harm or cause myself esteem to be low.
   To those who feel like everyone who his HIV Positive is a whore I have something to say. There are those who contracted it from intravenous drug use (contaminated needles), born with it because their mother had HIV, a cheating lover or spouse on the first time, and some may have even been raped by someone who had the virus. We do not know their story. For someone to say that people need to take responsibility for their actions, but you don't know their story, it shows how judgmental you are. So what someone made a poor decision or maybe the person trusted someone who lied to them.  They are human and they matter. They aren't "dirty." It is you who is dirty with stigma and ignorance.
   Don't get me wrong, we must all use precaution which includes being honest, wearing a condom, abstaining from sex, and getting tested regularly. How are we to know someone is being honest unless we go with them to get tested?  Think Before you Speak. Think Before You judge a person who states they are HIV positive.
  In the dating game, I've had phones hung up on me, I've been rejected, and I've been told that I'm being punished by God with HIV.  Oh well, let me jack up your theology. That is NOT the God I serve.
  Contracting HIV taught me that I must care for myself before I expect someone else to care for me. It also taught me that life is fragile and precious and we must live each day and go for our dreams, but know when to throw caution to the wind and know when to protect yourself.
  As I look at myself in the mirror, I don't see a face of HIV. I see a strong, Black, Gay, Man who loves God and has goals to reach and people to teach. I see a winner and a victor, not a victim.  Thankfully HIV is not the death sentence it used to be. For the last almost 2 years I've been undetectable and healthy. I'm level headed and I do my best to make sure others are doing well.
  If I'm dirty because of HIV then I don't need you in my life.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

I'm Sorry I Can't Date You

   Call me shallow, gold digger, prideful or whatever, you want to concerning this blog post, but I must vent my feelings and how I feel.
  Now I'm single and not bitter at the least.  Some may say that I'm single by choice and others may say otherwise. One reason that I'm single could possibly be my standards.
  One thing that you all know about me is that I've been out and proud since 2010. I'm independent meaning I work, pay my bills, strive for the best, and at least can manage to keep a car, my cell phone on, and very wise with my spending.  Now some may say I'm a bitch for admitting this oh well, #BYEFELICIA!!!
  Here recently, I've had , in their mind, potential suitors trying to woo me, but there's been one problem: They have no car, no money, and no priorities. They don't even have a phone to call someone to orchestrate a date. Now I'm not a gold a digger, but can you please at least have the basic necessities to get you through life? Not to mention the ones that have been approaching me, while they are good looking they are so damn DL that they are paranoid about appearing Gay. If you are secure with who you are other people's opinion should not matter.
  My response to those type of guys are, "sorry, I can't date you." I'm often told "Musique, that's why you're single. Just date the down low guy. Date the guy if he's broke."
  I'm like Sophia in "The Color Purple," "HELL NAW!!!!" Why would I, an established man, out and proud man, date someone who is not established, fronting like they are this and that, who is down low and scared to admit who he is?
  I won't and I should not!!!  Sorry I can't date you. My standards are quite reasonable and they are not too high. If you think I'm stuck up, then I'm not the one for you and you obviously are not the one for me.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Single, Black, and Gay Not Bitter.

  I've come to the realization that I'm a single man who happens to be Black and Gay. I've been single, really most of my life. I say that because I'm 28 and I've never been married and I'm okay with that. Most people especially in the LGBT Community feel that if you are approaching 30 and still single then either you're bitter or either you should stop trying.
  Well I refuse to give into the belief that all single, Black, SGL Men are bitter and we should stop trying. What about those of us who have tried honestly but the whole relationship thing just didn't pan out. It could've been because we made too much money, we are too fem, we are church boys, ballroom kids, or even because of a past mistake.
  There are times that I do long for that lasting relationship. The kind of  "Noah's Arc" fairy tale in which I meet and capture my "Wade." However, I'm patiently waiting and making sure I know who I am before I bring someone else into the mix.
  Right now, I am getting to know someone but he is miles away in another state and we've talked about the current situation. If things do work out I will be happy and if they don't I'll be okay.  I have a life to live and I have love to give.  I have music in my life and I have family, most importantly, I have God.
  I'm single, Black and Gay, but I refuse to be bitter,

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Not Everyone Will Like You

  One thing that I've learned as a singer, blogger, and youtube personality, is that not everyone will like you.
There will always be those who think that your views, songs, or personality is a joke.  However, I've learned not to take it personal. People will have something to say about whatever you do or go.  With a recent blog post on effemiphobia and somethings that were posted on Facebook, I've come under attack, which really encouraged me and made me laugh at the same token.
  Although some feel that the article was a joke and others felt it was a good article, I think I served my job as a blogger. As with any blog or article on a personally hosted or owned venue, it is solely that person's views. If it offends some, cause some to not agree, cause some to agree, or makes some happy or sad, its cool. That's life.
  Understand that when I write in this blog it is not to offend or cause hurt, or to be a joke as some stated,but to express my thoughts and feelings. If one doesn't agree with that, then its cool. If I come under attack, then its cool. I may not be a hundred dollar bill, but I am a precious Gem.
Live, Love, and Be Free,

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Coffee: What Do You Need In a Mate?

  Coffee has become a great acquaintance of mine. I'm not sure if that is a good thing nor not LOL.  I don't know what it is, but this week I've had to have coffee and I've had to have it when I wake up in the am.  I'm like Ledisi's song "Coffee,", it keeps me from sleeping on my job!!!
  In reference to Ledisi's "Coffee," she talks about how she likes her man. She says "Serve it to [her] hot... tall, strong and dark, just like she likes [her] coffee." I happened to listen to this song in depth and she's describing what she wants in a mate. Ledisi gives us an idea of what we should look for in a mate.
  A mate should push you into doing your best and not sleeping on your A Game!!!! A mate should serve to help you and encourage you to press through the toughest moments in life, not cause you to give up.  In an intimate relationship a mate should be your strength and vice versa. It should not be 25/75. If a partner sees you lacking in an area, they should let you know what areas you need to work in and not continue to let you slack off.  They also won't go elsewhere to find what they need from you. They will be willing to fight with you and make sure that you are staying awake in the relationship.
  Your mate and you should also both have a spiritual connection within yourselves. Not pushing religion, but you both should be spiritually in tune with each other and if you are in the same religion be rooted in your faith. Do not be unequally yoked.  That can go even to the job area.  If one mate is doing all the supporting and working with finances, then something isn't right.  Even if your mate tells you that you don't have to work, honey do something to show that you are doing your part. Cook a meal, Clean the house, share some of the duties.  IT IS A PARTNERSHIP, NOT A MOOCHING EXPERIENCE!!!
  Also a mate should know how to keep things spicy, and not just in the bedroom.  A great mate will know how to spice up everyday life and spice up the boo time.  It is not always about getting that session in.  It could just be talking, slow dancing, cooking a great meal, taking a road trip, or doing something spontaneous.  Also when it comes down to different things in the relationship, you will often have to compromise.
  Compromise doesn't mean that you change who you are. Compromise means that you come to a mutual agreement on issues that you may disagree on. However, if your mate wants you to compromise who you are or your morals, then run like HELL!!! No one should want to change who you are. They should accept you for who you are and encourage you to do you and forget about man's opinions, but yet walk in integrity.  If someone truly loves you they will love you flaws and all. If they can't, then they aren't the one for you.
  What are the things that you need in a mate?

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

@MontreBible Do You Have Gaytitude

  Montre is one of my favorite youtubers and bloggers. He is also an author and artist that has so much to offer and will give you a good bit of wisdom.  Montre poses a very important question to us Gay men .  Do YOU have Gaytitude? You know what that attitude is that attitude that seems like you been sucking on lemons all day. It is better known as a STANK ATTITUDE. Like Montre I'm tired of Gay men having a stank/GAYtitude.  Get into his wisdom below.

Friday, April 18, 2014

Is One's Sexuality Really that Important?

  With the University of Massachusetts's, sophomore, Derrick Gordon step out of the closet last week admitting and acknowledging that he was Gay.  Many said that this move was career suicide and others stated that he would only be seen as a Black Gay Man who happens to be a talented basketball player.  However, I beg to differ.
  My question to you is, is one's sexuality really that important?  We are currently living in a society where in some arenas, especially religious and political, one's sexuality can make your or break you. Sad to say that as society "progresses" we still have some ignorant people.
  Now with Derrick coming out, I think this is a brave step and acknowledges that LGBT people are in every aspect of our lives. They are in our churches, our jobs, our movies, music, construction companies.  They come in all shapes, sizes, styles, colors, hues, and also they are not all masculine, feminine, or HIV positive...THEY ARE HUMAN!!!
  Now back to sexuality and it's importance. Is it so important that a person is Gay, Bi, Straight, or Transgender that we over look their talent and their personality? Is it important that it overshadows their good will towards man and the charity work that they do? Is it that much that we limit them to a satirical character on a TV show?
  Let's not get into the satire portrayed on Gay Black Men. Make that Gay men in general. Gay men are thought of as flamboyant queens, but we have some masculine men that happen to be gay and happy, while others are just over the top, and sadly attention seeking, however, they are yet HUMAN.
  So Is One's sexuality really that important?

Saturday, April 12, 2014

@IamDuphotMusic New Single "Heart of Stone" 4.15.2014

   Recording artist, Bjorn Duphot, has something coming for you all on 04/15/2014.  Are You ready?
Go to IAmDuphot for what he's about to unleash on us all.
Check out his new single "Heart of Stone" below. You will
have no choice but to get up and dance!!!


Friday, April 11, 2014

Busy Weeks and Me Time

Hey Guys,
Sorry I haven't been writing much of my thoughts.
This week has been busy and hectic with work,
family, and preparing for the completion of
Destination DMV.
Be Sure to Check Out My Posts from this Week.
Tweet them, Share them, and Subscribe,

Thursday, April 3, 2014

Thursday Thoughts: I Love You

    As I write this post, I am anticipating great things in my life and anticipating a great weekend. I will be meeting with a very special artist this weekend at a concert and I of course will be posting about it.
  However, I'm writing about those three magic words; I Love You.  Those words have been spoken throughout all eternity and carry so much weight. Those three words have been the building and also the ruin of mankind. It has been abused, used, and carelessly thrown around.
  When I hear the words "I love you," the hopeless romantic in me jumps up and starts waltzing around the universe, but unless I see action I begin to doubt if that love is real.  With me those three words mean something and should not be taking lightly. When I say "I Love You," I'm stating my commitment to you. I'm stating that intend on us being a forever edition.
  Unfortunately, love has burned me, turned me cold, but I refuse to be alone and old. I'm like the Tinman in "The Wiz," "What Would I Do if I Could Feel?"  What would I do if I could feel "I love you" and not just hear it. I have to know it and not just utter it.  What would I do?


Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

    So Many of you know that I've recently thrown myself back into the dating game. There have been some suitor's but there is one that I'm sticking with. We'll call him Leland. Leland and I met last year via Facebook.  We met in one of the groups that I participate in Facebook.  He and I are both into the church, both are unique, we both love musicals, and we have so many opposite qualities that seem to push us together.
  Leland is a great guy. I can tell it in the way we talk on the phone, Skype, text, Facebook. However there is one drawback. He's in New York and I'm in South Carolina....Now before you all start judging me and hounding me about Destination DMV.  Many people have stated "Musique, Find you someone in DC."
  Yes, that seems logical, but I'm curious to see how this will work with me and Leland.  We've spent so much time getting to know each other and we have an understanding. Even when it seemed like I may have found someone here in good ole's South Carolina, it seems that I'm thinking more of Leland.  Many have also advised that I shouldn't venture into a long distance relationship because it wouldn't work.  To be honest, I've done it before, but the reason why the relationship did not work was because of me being "too fem." However, the thing I like about Jamal is that he doesn't think of me of being too fem and not even me being HIV Positive scares him. Leland is very well educated on HIV/AIDS and knows what he wants in a mate.  Leland and I, as far as I can see are very compatible.
  Now granted we are working on our first date due to the distance, my question to you is "can long distance relationships really work." There are so many issues that come into play such as trust, monogamy, honesty, who's being faithful, family life, and low and behold what it is like to live with that person.  Now I've known many couples to be in a long distance relationship and they end up getting married and are happy. Others have not be so fortunate.  Also I'm worried with my impending move to DC.  What is going to happen? I guess I'll have to run on and see what the end is going to be.
  Can long distance relationships work?