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Can You Really Be Friends With Your Ex?

Can you really be friends with your ex? It work for some and it doesn't work for others. It may work depending on how the relationship ended. It may also depend on what may have transpired in the relationship.
Right now I'm seeking answers to that question.  Can I really be friends with my ex?  Given my dating history and the bullcrap that I've had to put up with, I can truly say that I can't be friends with my exes.
This blog post comes from an experience that I had a couple days ago with an ex.  Many of you are familiar with my ex "Hamp."  Well Hamp and I had reconnected last year and we tried dating a 3rd time, but that quickly crashed and burned. We did however decide to remain friends.  Things were good until a couple months of ago in our friend  situationship.  We ended up becoming friends with benefits.   Well in May Hamp got scarce and just seemed distant. We had just had a conversation about "going ghost on each other."  I didn't unders…

What To Do When You Get Stood Up

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The Priestess Got Stood Up

So Ya Girl Got Stood THE F@$% UP!!! It really happened!!! The potential suitor was fine as wine, but apparently a simple Fuck Boy.

Picture It, South Carolina 2018. A fine Man of Color messages me on a dating app and a this bougie Black Transwoman replies and engages.  He introduced himself as Don. Now Don is 23 or so he says. Don paraded all of his accomplishments and the fact that he's openly pansexual, however that Piscean intuition told me this was not something I should've dealt with.

  Don was so smitten by my beauty that he wanted to meet me and get to know me. We did have a phone conversation other than texting and we planned our date.  Your girl was very excited about this "date" even though I was feeling like a damn cougar.
  Well Don and I talked again as I prepared to leave my house to meet him. I did text him and called him as I was approaching the designated spot we were to meet, but I didn't get an answer or reply.  The fucked up part was that 20 m…

Surviving Valentine's Day as a Single Woman

Well Valentine's Day is Upon Us! While many of us are in a thriving relationship, some of us are single or in the Friend Zone. Well on Black, Trans & Beautiful I discuss surviving Valentine's Day while single. Check out the video below for tips on Surviving Valentine's Day and Some Gift Ideas for Those you love,   Yannick

This Christmas

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I Bruised His Ego

Dating is so complex. I just don't understand why.  It is even more complicated when you're transgender.  As a transgender woman, I've had married men, closeted, down low men, and plain out horny men wanting to get with me just because I'm transgender and not for my intellect or to get to know me. In my experience in dating pre-transition and during the transition, I've gathered that some individuals just don't know what the heck they want.

Sexualized, Black, and Transgender

So It's been it's been six months since I became a single lady. I'm not complaining, however I've decided to give dating a try.  Nothing wrong with a girl trying is it?
  One of the many woes that I have when it comes to entering back into the dating game is the fact that I encounter guys that only see transwomen as a fetish!!!  I am quick to remind them that I am a human being and not just a sex object.  Is this because of how men already view women in itself and could it be that society have made being transgender a sexual fantasy?
  Most of the messages that I get in my inbox are from men who are married and looking to fulfill some sort of sexual desire or some horny guy that thicks his penis or open butthole is a great introduction or first impression.  With these actions I am quickly repulsed and agitated.
  I am quickly thinking that I've made a mistake in trying to date right now.  Yes, I'm waiting for my knight in shining armor, but damn can a woman, …

@TheStarReport4U Loving You Is Painful

Luckey of the Starr Report, is one of my favorite mentors, Youtubers and Bloggers.
  In a recent video, Luckey talks about when "Loving You is Painful."
  In this video and Wednesday Sermon, Luckey talks about letting go of unhealthy emotional relationships and learning when to let go of a friendship. Check him out below,

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Dreaming About The Ex

If you read this blog, then you know that I am currently in a relationship.  You would also know that the relationship prior to this one was not a healthy.  That ex whom we'll call Lucious was a user, liar, cheater, and your all around stunt queen!!!   Well on Friday night, I came home from work and I took a nap.  Guess who I dreamed about....The Stunt Queen Lucious. I dreamed that he and I were still dating.  I dreamed that Lucious and I were to meet my grandmother for dinner however, he had me to take him to a trap house to see someone that we all knew he hated.  However, he had me to call the police to alert them of drug activity.  I unwillingly called, and thought nothing of it.  Apparently, this was one of his stunts to get back at someone and redeem himself. Instead, in the dream, the police traced the call back to my phone and arrested me at my grandmother's house and I began explaining what happened.   The police then explained that they had been looking for my ex fo…

Stop Searching, It Will Come

It's been almost a month since my break up with my last lover.  Things seemed to be going well for the 2 months that we were together, however entering
 into the third phase or third month I noticed that his communication would get slack, unless he needed money or needed some type of assistance.  My ex, whom we'll call "Anton," turned out to be a sweet dream and beautiful nightmare.  Anton seemed like the perfect one for me, but then there were too many red flags and I began catching him in several lies. He would complain about me doing church work and accuse me of not making time for him, when I would sacrifice time with friends and family for him.  However, Anton could not sacrifice for me. So , I had to let him go.   I know my worth and I know what I deserve, and I deserve better than a quickie and more than a relationship out of convenience for what I can do.  I need someone that can value me as whole and will treat me like the King that I am.  I didn't rea…

Strength in Saying "No"

Recently I had a situation in which someone called me "weak" just for saying no to a proposition that could land me in a lot of trouble spiritually and could really mess up my life. That often happens in life whenever someone offers us a deal that sounds too good to be true or when we are in relationship and someone wants to sample our tasteful nectar saying no will make them mad and cause us to seem like a punk, wuss, or weak. However,  I've often found that saying "no" is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of us being stronger than what we thought.
  Saying "no," will also allow you to see who your real friends are.  Whenever a person asks you for a favor and you really can't help them and you say "no," their reaction and actions will say a lot.  If they say "I understand man. You're always there for me," they are very understanding. If afterwards they still hang around you and end up giving back to you for what you&…

Exes and Oh's

Many of us have exes. Many times we have tried over and over again for whatever reason to be with that ex.  I've learned that they are an ex for a reason. Just remember that some people are only in your life for a season.  In my third video for the Bradley Show, I discuss the topic of Exes and Ohs. Get into it below.

Don't Lose Yourself

Over the course of the last few days, during my blogcation, I've come to realize a three word phrase. This phrase is something that is necessary to listen to.  That phrase is "Don't Lose Yourself."
  When one loses themselves, it means that they have lost who they are, what they like, and their identity, as a whole.  This is quite common in a relationship.  It happens because one party is so busy making sure that their mate is happy, that they sacrifice friends, family, relationships, and what they love doing. This can cause issues with that person trying to make the relationship work. They will feel that what they do is never enough and they may feel unappreciated.
  I advise you and I take this advice for myself, although you may be in a relationship, don't lose yourself. Don't allow yourself to be so absorbed in your mate that you forget about yourself.  Set boundaries and communicate with your mate.  If they can't agree to certain terms and wants yo…

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When It's My Time it Will Be

Alot of people have been asking me, "Why aren't you dating." I know that I've written about this many times before. I've even listed my reasons for being single.  I've recently gotten back into the dating game. Yes I'm finally making time to stop and smell the flowers!!!! However, I am not in a rush to find that special someone.   It is funny though I saw a picture on Tumblr, that read "if you are a single, Gay, Black Man over 30, then you should stop trying." I so disagree with that saying. That sounded it like it came from either a jaded sugar-baby that has been scorned trying to play older men or some jackass who is over 30 and married or in a relationship.
  Now honey, sugar, sugar boo-boo, I'm 28 and single. I've had my share of relationships, flings, and cut buddies, but I'm at the stage of my life where I am preparing to accomplish some major dreams and it would be nice to have someone to share that with. Even if I don't…

Desperate Men, Moscato, and Musique

It's Saturday Night/Early (1am) Sunday Morning and I'm up watching television and relaxing before bed. As I sip on some sweet, ole Moscato, watching "Django," starring Jamie Foxx and Leonardo DiCaprio, I can't help but recap on life and some of the experiences that I've had in life, especially over the last couple days.
  One thing that you will hear me say is "thirsty is not cute."  This means that desperate men are not attractive to me.  If you show that you can't handle "no" for an answer and you keep begging and saying "no one loves or wants me," then you've not only pissed me off, but you've allowed me to see why you are single.
  See I've come to realize that no one wants a desperate, begging man. Why? Most people want someone who is assertive and able to stand their ground...NOT SOMEONE WHO'S BEGGING FOR ATTENTION.
  It's like this in order to be loved by someone else you must first love yourse…

Am I Asking For Too Much?

Have you ever sat to yourself and gone over your list of requirements and standards for that perfect mate?  You look over the list and you start examining what's realistic and what's really something that you can't control.  Well I'm in that place right now.  I'm asking myself "am I asking for too much."
The last couple years my relationships have lasted a couple weeks to only a few months. I've had some that seemed just right and some that were no count.  I've had some that were genuinely interested, but I guess due to the fact that I like to take my time and not rush into sex, that ran them off.  All I ask is for someone who loves me for me and accepts me for me. Someone who isn't all about getting into my cakes. What shall I do?
  One main issue is for my break ups is the fact that my personality is "too much"or the fact that I'm feminine and a drag entertainer.  Also the fact that I embrace my sexuality and the fact that I&#…

I'm Perfect... I'm Just Not The One For You

Why is it that whenever I choose to be single, all these busters and scrubs (TLC tea), with all of these hang ups approach me.  Over the weekend, this guy has been trying to get to know me, but the fact that I'm feminine and an entertainer is going to be an issue. I realize some guys can't handle that.
  Well he asked me what I did over the weekend of course I told him what I did.  I worked and I did a show as my alter ego. He quickly says "I don't want to hear anything about that. I'm not being mean, but I don't care for that."

  In the back of my mind I thought "then you really can't handle what comes with getting to know me and being with me."  I quickly scratched and discarded any potential of me even dating him.

  Maybe I go overboard, but I would rather be in a relationship with someone who accepts my total being. Granted we all have things that may drive people crazy or something that may be a character flaw, however me just being …

Thought of the Day: Secret Lovers

If a person can only love you in secret, then that love is counterfeit.