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Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts

Monday, October 17, 2016

Being Transgender and Facing The Gay Community


  Well the last few hours have been VERY interesting.  I was on a social media site and I did a forum post on celibacy and this is the response I got:

Thursday, July 21, 2016

"Greenleaf" and the Black Church Part 2: Prostitution of the Blaqueer




  For those who have kept up with one of the two Gay Story Lines in Oprah's new show "Greenleaf"   , you know that I'm about to go the fuck OFF about the prostitution of the Blaqueer community and the bullshit we often go through in the Black Church.
  In the last couple episodes of Greenleaf a new praise and worship leader by the name of Carlton Cruise, played by actor Parnell Damone Marcano, is sought out by The Bishop's singing daughter, Charity, played by Deborah Joy Winans (yes she's Bebe and Cece's Sister). Now the shade is that Charity's husband Kevin Saterlee played by Tye White is on the Downlow but we'll hit that point later.

Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Hurt People Hurt People


In my lifetime I have heard and experienced the unfortunate cliche “,hurt people hurt people.”
This simply means that people who have been hurt at some point in their life lash out and inflict emotional, mental, physical, and sometimes even spiritual pain on those around them.  It could be that certain words are triggers, certain phrases can set a person off or that people simply accomplishing certain goals can cause the person who have been hurt to lash out.
  Many questions may come to mind. One question may be “why do hurt people hurt others when they can heal or get help to heal that hurt.” Well, that is easier answered than accomplished.  When a person is hurt they tend to internalize the role as a victim. If a person has been victimized with in a great trauma, often times they carry around the weight of that hurt and the pain and use it as a defense mechanism.  The hurt that was done to that person may have caused them to feel insecure which can and will affect relationships and sometimes cause them to jump from one relationship to the next without effectively dealing with the pain and healing.  
  In my experience, I’ve also learned that when people are hurt it causes a distrust of people in general.  There is an idea or perception that everyone is out to get them.  Therefore, before that person gets hurt they seek an opportunity to inflict pain or “hurt” someone to further protect themselves.
  When a person is hurt, and I’ve been there done that myself, they tend to busy themselves with entertainment and in some cases unhealthy methods such as drug abuse, self harm, and violence in order to cope.   This centers around the nature and accommodation of them to feel good about themselves and be happy with themselves.  
  When a person seeks validation in people or things, it will cause them to do things for the drive to accomplish something great.  Unfortunately this can cause issues when relating to other people.  It is unfortunate that hurt people carry around this hurt, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
  The first key to overcoming the hurt is to acknowledge the hurt. You must acknowledge your feelings and acknowledge your emotions.  Trust me it is a process that may cause you to shed some tears, but tears are not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of release and freedom. When you acknowledge that you are hurting then you are able to move the next phase of healing from hurt.
  The second key to overcoming the hurt is to forgive.  This may take some time and it may take one getting counseling or professional guidance in forgiving and healing from the hurt or pain that was caused.  Un-forgiveness can cause bitterness and can cause a personality change towards people.  This will cause a person not to allow people to really care and love them for who they are.
  Another key to overcoming the hurt is to recognize that you are an overcomer already and that you survived.  By carrying around hate towards the person that hurt you and a vengeful attitude towards humanity.  Keep in my mind that the hurt didn’t kill you. It may have temporarily halted some things, but think and look at where you are now and where you were when the hurt took place.  More than likely the person that hurt you has moved on while you are still worried and angry.  You are still giving that person that person the power over you and your life.
    This brings me to my last point. When you allow what that person did to hold power of your spirit and emotions, then you are not free. You must take control of your life by forgiving and telling yourself that you are powerful and that you are an overcomer among them!!!
  If you have been hurt and it seems difficult, there is no shame in talking to someone or even entering counseling or therapy to get total healing.  The therapists and counselors are here for a reason.  It is time to be free from hurt. It is time for your heart to heal and time for the cycle of the continuation of hurt to end.
 Selah



Wednesday, December 2, 2015

@TheStarReport4U Loving You Is Painful

  Luckey of the Starr Report, is one of my favorite mentors, Youtubers and Bloggers.
  In a recent video, Luckey talks about when "Loving You is Painful."
  In this video and Wednesday Sermon, Luckey talks about letting go of unhealthy emotional relationships and learning when to let go of a friendship. Check him out below,


Saturday, September 26, 2015

Me Time and Life


  Many of you have been wondering where I have been the last week or so. Well I've actually been taking me some me time that was much needed. 
  Since the release of the crazy, bitter ex, I've had to spend sometime regrouping. Through this time I was able to focus on me and regain my focus on my music and the move to the DMV.
I had spent so much time trying to make something work, but the only thing that was working was my money.
  Sometimes people don't want you because they love you. They see what you have to offer and what you can do for them and they neglect the love factor and focus on the "what can I get out of this person factor."  
  It is sad and unfortunate, but I'm thankful for the experience. Why? Well It is allowing me to transition like I desire. It is also allowing me to explore the polyamorous side of me.  I'm in a time of exploration and a time of transition. If you want to be apart of this transition please click on the link below. This is how you call can stand with me in solidarity. 
Love ya,
Yannick



Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Don't Ask About My Genitals: Advice from a GenderQueer/Trans Person of Color



  I have some advice to those who are curious about MTF, FTM, and Other Transgender people. PLEASE DO NOT ASK ABOUT GENITALS OR DICK!!!
  Why am I giving this advice?  Well Let's see, It is fucking RUDE!!!  It is disrespectful.  This advice comes after a Facebook message that The Priestess received on last night.  In it a man that we'll call "Daddy O,"  who knows what the Priestess is working with in the Penile region, stated that he saw that I was transitioning and that he loved that I had a nice penis. He simply asked "What are you going to do with it." He also stated that he was hoping that I would not get rid of it.
  I was taken aback at his ignorance. I was also irritated as hell.  For starters I did want to tell him "Sir, You don't own any parts of me. So you cannot dictate my transition and what I do with my body."  I felt as if I had been violently violated and prodded and controlled.  I was pissed.  
  However, this Priestess put on her crown and simply told him that my transition is still in the works and that decision rests with me. Later, Did Daddy O apologize for asking about my genitals and penis.
  Please do not ask Transgender Person about their genitalia.  That does not make them whole nor does it define them!!! Please also do not place demands on what they should do with their genitalia.  That is a low form of disrespect. Please DO NOT ASK ABOUT MY DICK!!! When you do you are attempting to dictate how I should transition. You do not have that right. You may get a "fuck your opinion" or a simple "fuck you."
  Please Don't Do It!!!!

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

I'm Taking a Leap of Faith


  There are times in our life where we must take leaps of faith and must take a chance on something that will greatly benefit us.  Right now I am in this place. 
Right now I am contemplating some moves that will greatly benefit me in the area of my music career, and liberating myself from the humdrum of working a 9-5.  This is one reason why I am stepping up my game with this blog.  
 Many people have asked why I haven't been blogging as much, well the truth is that I've needed some time away to evaluate some things about my life and about what I really want out of life.  I am doing the best I can to audition with a heavy work schedule as well as keep the creative juices flowing.  
  I've even started a crowdfunding to help me jump start my music career.  I'm trying to make waves for myself. However, I'm staying patient and resilient that God will answer my prayers soon.
  I'm stepping out on that NOW faith principle.
Selah,
Yannick

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Even I Get Tired


  We all get to a point to where we get burned out and get tired.  Burn out happens when you are over your head in stress and when so many people desire so much of your time.  But sometimes we get tired and we have to take some time for ourselves to regroup and refresh.
  I'm at that point right now.  It happens every blue moon.  I do apologize for not being very active on this blog site, but I haven't really felt like blogging nor have I had the time.  I do thank you all for viewing this blog site and I thank you for showing your support and keeping up with my Youtube Channel.  I may not have a million views nor a million followers, but I am thankful that you all think enough of me to come by and to comment, share, and input your ideas into this blog.
  It really means a lot to me.  I pray that you all bare with me as I change some things in my routine. I realize that with some things going on in my life, that posting may not happen everyday, but I count it all joy when I am able to post ont his blog. 
  Posting is a release. I've stop saying I am not a superstar blog, but I am declaring that I am a SUPERSTAR!!!! I look forward to great things happening for this blog.
Love ya,
Yannick aka Musique

Friday, March 27, 2015

#FlashBackFriday-But You're Gay


 As I write this post, my mind goes back to a hot August day.  It was the beginning of my Friday before the big campus parties and my homegirl "Cree," and I were eating lunch.
  Cree asked me "Yannick, what type of work did you do back home."
  "I work as a church musician and I used to work at a hardware store," I replied as I munched on my good old cheeseburger.
  I looked up and Cree had this puzzled look on her face. It was like her face had became numb and she replied "But You're Gay."
  I couldn't do anything but laugh.
  It had me thinking to myself "Does my sexuality determine what type of job I should have?"
  Many people often have the stereotype that Gay Men, Transgender people, and gender non conforming people often can only snag call center jobs, office jobs, fast food jobs, and stereotypically Hairdressers or make up artists.  
  This misconception is entirely untrue.  Would you believe it if I told you that I've worked in a warehouse, grouphomes, day camp facilities, and I've even been a stage manager?  These are some of the occupations that I as a genderqueer have held, femininity and all.
  There are many people just like me that have jobs that people do not see them fit for. However, my sexuality does not qualify me, my work ethic and experience does.
  Many people do not see me holding high ranking positions in ministry either because I'm gay.  The last time I checked God looks at my heart not my sexuality.
Good Night

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Happy Birthday To Me: The Ides of March

Beware the Ides of March Approacheth

Well As many of you know this upcoming Sunday, March 15th, will mark a milestone for me. I will be entering into the best year of my twenties...29!!!!
   I am not dreading the tip toe to 30, but I am embracing it.  The last few years of my 20's have seen ups and downs.  One of the major changes was in 2012 when I was diagnosed with HIV. 
 At first, I felt that my life would've been over, but HELL TO THE NO BOBBY!!!!! I've just begun.  For the last 2.5 years have been undetectable and healthy.  It was a struggle to come to grips with my diagnosis, but I'm free and I'm still living. 
   The next highlight would be that I actually found myself to be gender nonconforming (check the pic above).  I realized that I am able to identify with whomever the hell I want to identify with in the gender spectrum.   As I've journeyed in my identity I've also found myself to be involved in the Ballroom scene (remember the 1980/90s Documentary "Paris is Burning).  
  In 2014 I've won two major Balls and have made a standard for the category of Butch Queen Up In Pumps and I'm not ashamed.  I am  happy to say that I'm also in a house and very happy.
   I've even started working on my own music company (http://www.youcaring.com/BradleysMusic).  I am also making waves in the Christian church and on youtube by just being myself.  This lean, mean butch queen is a fighting machine and I'm not backing down for anyone!!!!
  I am also working on my own business ventures as we speak.   It may take some time, but I do believe that 2015 is my year and that before this year ends I will no longer require the use of a 9-5.  
Happy Birthday To ME!!!
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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Getting Back To Me


  It has been a very long time since I've sat my happy booty down and wrote in this blog.  One reason is that I had been sick with a stomach virus. Then as I recuperated I broke my laptop charger and I just got a new one a couple days ago. Then I had to make a trip to the DMV for an even that later got cancelled due to a snow storm.  
  I can't complain, though. I needed this break. I needed some time away to regroup and to refresh myself.  We have to do that so that we won't lose ourselves in the hustle and bustle of life.  I am also thankful for my current lover. 
  Mr. Lover Boy has encouraged me to just enjoy life and have fun more often without stressing over things that are out of my control.  Look for it. Some exciting and new things are about to happen for this blog.
 love ya,
Yannick



Monday, February 9, 2015

Life Gets Hectic



  Well I must say life has been hectic here lately. Between running this blog and revamping Yannick's World On Youtube, My life has been very busy. I've been trying my best to keep updating the blog and keep everything flowing smooth within reason. I will soon be back to regularly posting. Love you much,
Yannick T

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Are You Really Satisfied?


  Are you satisfied? It's the second month of 2015 and many of us have declared that we were doing a "New Year and New Me" out fit. We threw the party and we celebrated, but the question comes to mind if we are really satisfied with ourselves.
  Are we happy with where we are? Sometimes we get frustrated with staying in one place for too long. We are often unsatisfied, because we failed to act on specific opportunities that have come our way.
  In order to be satisfied we must go for what we want and desire out of life. We must go for the big dreams and stop fooling around with the cracker jacks of dreams.  In order to be satisfied we must simply live and forget about other people and their opinions.
  Are you really satisfied?

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

What Do You Want Out of Life?


 What do you want out of life? What do you desire for yourself? In this new year of 2015, It is time for us to examine the things that we really want out of life.  You must make that decision.
  Is it happiness, success, love, and peace?  If so take the necessary steps to uproot and over throw everything and everybody that is preventing you from getting to happy. It is mandatory. It isn't a choice.
  If you want sadness, pain, tragedy, then keep doors open to people that don't want you to succeed, drain you, and kill your dreams.
  The choice is yours. What do you want out of life?

Monday, January 12, 2015

Getting Back to Me 2015


  Hey Family,
I pray that you are all enjoying 2015 so far.  I know many of you have been wondering, Where I've been hiding?  Well, There's something that we all deal with called life.  
 Somethings that happened in 2014 threw me of course, however I am determined to get back on course. For starters I am looking for a better job and trying to make sure that my finances are where they need to be for this move to DC.  I've been working on this move for almost 3 years and it seems that I keep having set back after set back, However 2015 I am definitely moving with or without the support of some people.  I feel as if I'm behind, but no use in looking in the past.
  It is time to move forward. I do believe that within the next few months things with the move will work out.  I have also been suffering from burn out and trying to deal with family issues. If it isn't one thing it's another, however I am finding myself back to me and back to my peace. 
  I refuse not to be at peace.  I do believe that things will be well. 
  Well I'm off to complete my dreams and goals.
Yannick

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Celebrate You

Celebrate you.
Forget What People Want You To Be.
Celebrate Your Being.
Yannick

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